Last month I picked up the book The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier and I’ve enjoyed the author’s ideas. Generally, the pitch is that coaching should be simple and question-oriented: spend more time listening and less time talking (I’m a fan of that!). There’s a reason we have two ears and one mouth ‒ we need to listen twice as much as we talk.
Here are the seven questions to ask during each coaching session:
- What’s on your mind?
- And what else?
- What’s the real challenge here for you?
- What do you want?
- How can I help?
- If you’re saying yes to this, what are you saying no to?
- What was most useful for you?
Combine The Coaching Habit philosophy with a 1:1 agile performance management system like WideAngle and you’ll be in the top quartile of leaders.